When we get married, we’re literally joining up our spiritual energy.  In this process we begin to war even more with the carnal things of this world and specifically our flesh.  This is especially the case when a new couple finds that they are unequally yoked (another subject altogether, reserved for another post).

These flesh desires are the most common reasons for separation and divorce, so they warrant some discussion.  These include, but are certainly not limited to: finances, status, security, possessions, etc.

My wife and I started experiencing this battle about 3 months into our marriage and, thankfully at that time, we were reading the Word together on a regular basis.   As a result, we would remind each other, with particular sayings, to “snap us out” of the flesh and back into our spiritual walk.

I wanted to share a few in hopes that you can open up with your spouse, be certain that your yoke is indeed equal and ensure that things of this world will not tear down that which God has put together in your marriage.

“We are about inwardly things, not outwardly things.”

“Who are you fighting?”

“We are in the world, not of the world.”

“We walk in the spirit.”

“Faith is belief in things unseen, but hoped for.”

“You are my gift from the Father.”

“The beginning of wisdom is to Love God.”

“Acknowledge God and He will direct your paths.”

“Your soul is precious.”

“This flesh is only temporary.”

“We already have the victory in Christ.”

Never forget, it is the things that come out of our mouths that defile us.  So, be sure that you repent to your spouse for the negative words you utter.  Our egos need not participate in this exchange.

One more note about my marriage in particular, that I pass on as a recommendation for newlyweds.  Get on the same page early on in your marriage, even if you have semi-heated discussions about your differences.  Once you are both in agreement that you love God and His Christ more than each other, it will lay a foundation that can always be restored with humility, repentance and the subsequent forgiveness.

I hope this has been a help to you in you marriage.

Joshua Jones

I know, someone is going to say, no way it’s that simple!

Please God, the Father of both your souls, first. He, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, will work out the rest of the major kinks, one way or another.

I bet you thought I was going to talk about sex saving marriage right?  LoL   Sensuality, though, is a part of many failed relationships, so it certainly has something to do with pleasing your spouse.  Let me ask a question…  Do you think any relationship will actually survive, if only carnal needs are being met in that relationship?

By carnal, I mean things of the world: sex, money, status, looks, etc…  the chances are slim, honestly.

You stand a far greater chance of enjoying a long-term, mutually beneficial relationship with someone that you can grow with spiritually, physically and intellectually.  I put emphasis on spirituality, of course.  Love God first, love your spouse second, and treat him or her the way you want to be treated.

I hope this was a help to some.

Joshua A Jones